There are no rules about when to have a sexual relationship again after birth, and this will very much depend on how you feel both physically and emotional, so it’s better not to rush into it.  

You will probably be tired and sore after birth, and it might take a little time before you feel like having sex, but every woman is different.

The risk of infection is higher during the weeks following the birth, as your cervix may not be fully closed, and your womb will still be healing where the placenta has detached.  Because of your hormonal changes, you might find that your vagina feels drier, so you may want to try a lubricant to begin with. If you’re worried, then speak to your midwife who will be able to advise you.

It’s important to use contraception as you can get pregnant from three weeks (21 days) after birth, even if you are breastfeeding. If you have given birth in hospital, your midwife will usually talk to you about contraception before you go home.

It will also be discussed at your postnatal check at between 6-8 weeks. You can also talk to your GP or family planning nurse about the sort of contraception you would like to use.  There are some contraception methods that are not suitable while you are breastfeeding.

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